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April 3, 2024

From the Vault: Why Does a Messy House Give Me Anxiety? How to Stress Less About Cleaning and Keep Your House Functioning

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KC Davis
Licensed Professional Therapist and Author

Today we’re reaching back into our vault to revisit one of our most popular episodes!

Why does a messy house give me anxiety? Why can’t I motivate myself to clean since I had kids? Am I just a lazy mom? Moms often worry about these things, feeling immense pressure to keep a clean house and experiencing shame when they fall short of those expectations. 

As moms, we can’t always buy ourselves more time to clean. But we can approach the concept of cleaning differently, learn to overcome our anxiety around cleaning, and develop simple tips for keeping the house functioning without getting overwhelmed. 

Today, I’m joined by KC Davis, author of How to Keep House While Drowning, known as Domestic Blisters on TikTok and founder of Struggle Care, to discuss reframing our thinking about “the mess” and tips for cleaning with kids.

What You'll Learn

  • How to Reframe Our Thinking About Care Tasks
  • Practical Ways to Approach Cleaning as Functional
  • The Role Intensive Mothering Plays in Anxiety Over a Clean House
  • Why We Should Let Go of the Concept of “The Lazy Mom” 
  • A Simple Method For Cleaning Up (Even When It Seems Overwhelming)
  • Why Prioritizing Ourselves is Important

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KC Davis
Licensed Professional Therapist and Author

KC Davis is a licensed professional therapist, author, speaker, and the person behind the mental health platform Struggle Care. KC's compassionate and practical approach to self and home care for those dealing with mental health, physical illness, and hard seasons of life has drawn over a million followers on social media. Her book, "How to Keep House While Drowning" has sold over 50,000 copies and has been translated into multiple languages. KC Davis began her therapy journey at 16 when she entered treatment for drug addiction and mental health issues. After getting sober she became a speaker and advocate for mental health and recovery. Professionally, KC has worked most of her career in the field of addiction in roles such a therapist, consultant, and executive director. She lives in Houston with her husband and two daughters

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Erica is the founder of Momwell, providing educational resources and virtual therapy for moms. She is a mom of three boys and a registered psychotherapist. Erica’s work has been featured in the Toronto Star, Breakfast Television, Scary Mommy, Medium, Pop Sugar, and Romper. how they want it.
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